A New Perspective on Success

In this article, we’re diving into a different way of thinking about success, exploring the need for a paradigm shift to truly grasp what success is all about.

Understanding Success

So, what exactly is success, and what’s the secret to achieving it? This is the burning question on many people’s minds, whether it pertains to personal or professional goals.

Success often seems like a vague concept, with individuals approaching it in various ways. For most, it’s all too easy to equate success with one thing: money. This mindset is deeply ingrained in our thinking and often stands as a barrier to redefining what success truly means.

Broadening the Notion of Success

Success isn’t just about wealth; it encompasses a plethora of aspects. It’s important to ponder the multifaceted nature of success and what it signifies for each individual. Some success factors may be evident, while others are less conspicuous.

Consider these notions:

  • Success is about acquiring knowledge.
  • Success is having the means to put food on the table.
  • Success is the comfort of a roof over your head.
  • Success is experiencing love and sharing it with someone special.
  • Success is maintaining good health.
  • Success is the ability to walk.
  • Success is triumphing over competition.
  • Success is being happy.
  • Success is tapping into the power of positive thinking.
  • Success is having the resources to see clearly with eyeglasses, and the list goes on. 

Clearly, the concept of success is intricate and far-reaching, demanding deep reflection and an expansive perspective.

Success and Attitude

Your attitude plays a pivotal role in determining your success. When your mindset is on point, success often follows.

What is attitude?

  • Attitude serves as the wellspring of your strength or weakness.
  • It has the power to be either positive or negative.
  • It can be shallow or deep.
  • Attitude shapes your emotions and influences your actions.
  • It reflects how you feel about something.
  • Attitude is deeply rooted, whether overt or concealed.
  • Belief is an integral part of your attitude.
  • Attitude can be transformed.
  • It arises from within you.
  • It serves as a personal motivator.
  • Early life experiences can shape your attitude.
  • Attitude serves as a life compass.
  • It colors your words and actions. 

In essence, attitude is a complex amalgamation of thoughts and emotions. If you maintain an attitude of gratitude, you learn to appreciate and value things, irrespective of their quantity. Your attitude fundamentally defines what success means to you.

The Power of Positive Thinking

The power of positivity wields tremendous influence in shaping your attitude and, consequently, your path to success. It’s a form of success in itself.

Let’s illustrate this with a story/joke:

Imagine two children involved in a study about behavior. One is optimistic and positive, while the other is pessimistic and negative.  Researchers placed the pessimistic child in a store filled with toys, while the optimistic child is left in a place full of horse manure for a few hours.

Upon their return, the pessimistic child in the toy store is found crying, unable to find a specific toy. The optimistic child in the manure-filled area is spotted buried headfirst in the pile, digging away cheerfully when pulled out legs first and asked what he is doing with all this horse manure he yells exuberantly “With all this manure there must be a horse somewhere!”  

Although funny and humorous, it is hard to miss the point when we humans tend to have so much seldom valuing what we have and often complaining about what we don’t. 

This tale emphasizes the contrast between a positive and negative attitude. It’s both amusing and a stark representation of reality.

The truth about success lies in your attitude, in what you consider a victory, regardless of its universality. In essence, success is a personal journey, not limited to a singular, elusive goal.

Success in the Business World

Success in the business arena isn’t different from personal success. Your attitude towards your work and colleagues profoundly impacts your perception of success.

Ask yourself:

  • Are you genuinely content with your job, knowing it provides for your family?
  • If you’re a leader, do you take pleasure in your team’s success?
  • Does the power of positivity shine through in your interactions, or is negativity your shadow? 

Charisma, as an aura of success, draws others toward you. It’s the glow of a positive attitude that people want to bask in.


A Paradigm Shift in Thinking – Success in Progress


Success can be uncovered in every facet of life when the right attitude prevails. It shouldn’t be confined to a single destination where only a few can prevail.

It’s unreasonable to assume that in a world with billions of individuals, there’s room for only a handful of success stories. Such a notion not only defies logic but is an unfortunate reality perpetuated by the narrow-minded focus on money as the sole measure of success.

Let me share a personal story: During my early years teaching tennis, a man brought his dejected 6-year-old nephew for lessons. In front of the child, he callously remarked that the boy was not good enough but should have a lesson anyway. I intervened, and put the man in his place!! And the boy spent 45 minutes on the court.

In that brief span, the child’s smile reappeared, and he stopped putting himself down. The power of positivity transformed his perspective, and he realized he could enjoy tennis. The success was his enjoyment.

In my various roles, success for me is witnessing the blossoming of self-worth and the belief that “I can” in those I engage with. This profound transformation, regardless of the specific skills taught, is what defines success. My goal is to ensure that everyone I work with understands that success is an inclusive, ongoing process, and if they could only see they are successful in so many things they are and do.

Now, it’s your turn!


Best Man Bootcamp: Your Ultimate Guide to Being a Stellar Best Man

Let’s roll up our sleeves and dive into the nitty-gritty of being a top-notch best man to the groom. This isn’t just about showing up on the big day all steezed out in a suit. Nah, it starts before that and extends even after the Sweet Caroline is played at the end of the wedding. Oh yeah, ask me sometime about how much I love that song!

The Pre-Wedding Shenanigans

First off, your support in EVERYTHING is crucial. You honestly can make or break a wedding. Logistics are what you excel at. Be present at all the essential stuff – engagement parties, suit fittings, and remember those wild bachelor parties. Next up, get your Zen on! Weddings are a storm of stress, and someone’s gotta be calm amidst the chaos. That’s where you come in – the voice of reason in the hurricane of wedding planning.
And hey, remember to be the go-to guy for all the guests. This is super important if you’re doing the whole destination wedding thing. Be a champ and help with all the tedious stuff – hotel check-ins, transportation, event schedules, etc. It’s all about letting the groom kick back and enjoy his wedding.  Set the precedent on how your best man needs to show up on YOUR wedding day.

The Big Day

Alright, it’s game day. Rule number one? Be on time. You need to be there with all your attire, ready to rock. Your job’s still ongoing, though. You’re the liaison before the ceremony. When guests start pouring in with their myriad of questions – where to put gifts, where’s the bathroom, where’s the shuttle – you’re the one with all the answers.

Now, you might be ushering guests to their seats. Remember, this is different from the movies – no one’s gonna tell them where to sit. That’s on you. Fill the seats evenly on both sides.  Get the symmetry ready for the photographers shot of the bride walking down the aisle or from above.  Empty seats look like shit.

This gets crucial when specific seats are reserved for family and wedding party members. Once everyone’s seated, you’re at the altar with your brother. Remember to keep the weight on one leg only at all times and smile, no matter how hungover you are!

After the ceremony, resist the temptation to hit the bar immediately and help keep the wedding party together for the photos. Your photographer will love you for it!

If you’re asked to give a speech, knock it out of the park. But remember, if you’re not asked, don’t just wing it and grab the mic- you want to ensure the evening’s schedule is on track.

And guess what? You’re the life of the party, so make sure you’re the first on the dance floor. This is the best time for photos and to pull your mates up for a quick dance. Stay on the floor all night. Set the tempo, which will help ensure the groom stays on the dance floor all night with his bride.

The After Party

The wedding might be done, but your duties are still ongoing. If there’s a breakfast scheduled, you need to make sure everyone knows about it and shows up on time. Please help with the gifts, take care of returning any rentals, and check on the couple’s home while they’re off on their honeymoon. 

That’s a lot of work, but it’s what groomsmen do, right? 



ABCCM launches its annual Christmas Angel Shop Wednesday, December 29th in
the fellowship hall at Abernethy United Methodist Church, 1418 Patton Avenue,
Asheville, NC 28806, to provide Christmas gifts to children of families in need. Last year
640 families with 1,668 children were on the list, and this year ABCCM anticipates even
With 28,748 Buncombe County residents living below poverty level, there is a consistent
need to help individuals and families in our community. But this year is extraordinary.
The impact the increased cost of living has had on families and individuals is
immeasurable. Unemployment and lack of insurance has left otherwise self-sustaining
individuals and families with children homeless, without medical care, behind on their
rent, utilities shut off, and a lack of food on the table. Families are having to choose
between putting food on the table, filling their car with gas, and Christmas gifts for their
ABCCM Executive Director, Reverend Scott Rogers says, “We are thankful for our
sponsors of Christmas Angel Trees: First Citizens Bank at all Buncombe County
locations, Country Club of Asheville, Biltmore Estate, Yesterday’s Tree, Chick-Fil-A,
Duke Energy, First Bank, Perfection Gear, Blue West Opportunities, New Life Church,
The Rock Church, Trinity Presbyterian, and we hope many more will join them.”
Rev. Rogers encourages those wishing to buy Christmas gifts or those wanting to
sponsor a family to go to the Christmas Angel page to sign up:
https://www.abccm.org/Christmas-Angel. Businesses can put up a Christmas Angel
Tree and encourage customers to pick a child’s name and purchase age-appropriate
presents and take those to the Christmas Angel Shop in the fellowship hall at Abernethy
UMC church on Patton Ave. next to Anders-Rice Funeral Home.
“There are several options for people willing and able to help,” says ABCCM Special
Events Coordinator Jordan Linkston. “At abccm.org/Christmas-Angel, you will see the

many ways you can participate with the Christmas Angel program. You can volunteer to
help at the Christmas Shop, purchase toys for a family or children, or make a donation.
Since ABCCM is church-owned and volunteer-led, 94¢ of every dollar you contribute
goes directly to serve those in need.”
According to Jordan, the need for Christmas Angel is greater this year than ever. “Last
year Christmas Angel served 640 families with 1,668 children,” she says. “This year
there may be even more. Will you please add a few to your Christmas list? Here at
ABCCM we believe in the wonder and meaning of Christmas. We believe in wide-eyed
children opening presents from their parents on Christmas morning, and sharing the
love of Christ in this way with families going through some of the hardest of times. We
believe that every child should feel loved and cared for! There are so many families in
crisis and worried about jobs, how they will pay the rent or the utilities, and putting food
on the table. ABCCM’s Christmas Angel program is committed to filling those gaps for
families by providing Christmas presents for their children. Please join us by ‘Sharing
Your Love with a Child and Family’ – be one of our many Christmas Angels who help
parents brighten Christmas morning for their children.”

Give Your Vehicle the Makeover It Deserves

In an era where the average cost of a new car hovers around a staggering $47,000, it’s no wonder that people are choosing to hold on to their vehicles longer. A car isn’t just a mode of transportation; it’s an investment in your daily life. So, if you’re one of the many proud car owners in Western North Carolina looking to keep your trusted vehicle in top-notch condition without breaking the bank, it’s time to consider a game-changer – paintless dent removal from Dent FX.co.

Why Keep Your Car Longer? The decision to keep your car for an extended period makes financial sense. With the ever-increasing cost of new vehicles, opting for longevity over frequent upgrades can save you a significant amount of money in the long run. However, as your car ages, it’s natural for dents and dings to accumulate, robbing your vehicle of its original beauty.

The Dent FX.co Advantage Dent FX.co specializes in paintless dent removal, and they’re your go-to destination for expert dent repair near you in Western North Carolina. What sets them apart from the rest? Let’s dive into the reasons why Dent FX.co is your best choice for keeping your car looking like new.

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Don’t let those unsightly dents and dings diminish your car’s appearance and value. Trust Dent FX.co to revitalize your vehicle, making it look like it just rolled off the showroom floor. With their expertise in paintless dent repair near you in Western North Carolina, you can extend the life of your car while enjoying the pride of driving a vehicle that’s both stylish and well-maintained.

So, if you’re committed to keeping your car longer, choose Dent FX.co for a cost-effective, environmentally friendly, and value-preserving solution. Say goodbye to dents and dings, and hello to a car that looks like new. Get in touch with Dent FX.co today and give your vehicle the makeover it deserves.

Enchanting Wedding at The Farm at Old Edwards: Victoria and Ryan in Highlands, NC

Be sure to check out all of the images from their wedding by visiting the full blog post!

It was a grandeur day filled with love, laughter, and unforgettable moments! I had the incredible privilege of capturing Victoria and Ryan’s wedding over the Labor Day Weekend. This event truly encapsulated the couple’s vibrant spirit. Nestled amidst the lush greenery and serene mountains of Highlands, NC, The Farm at Old Edwards was the perfect setting for their intimate celebration.

First, we started off with a pickleball tournament between the wedding guests. The weather was amazing and felt like a perfect fall day, and the competition was fierce! Afterward, we freshened up and had a lovely welcome dinner at Flat Mountain Farm in Highlands, NC. It’s a gorgeous property, with more to come about it later!

On wedding day, from the moment I walked into the Farmhouse, the air buzzed with excitement. Victoria, looking absolutely stunning, got ready, surrounded by her favorite people. Not far away, Ryan and his groomsmen prepared for the day at Flat Mountain Farm. Their anticipation was palpable, and it was a joy to capture.

The ceremony at the Orchard House was beautiful and marked by a family tradition of sipping from a “loving cup.” As the couple exchanged vows, their profound love for each other was evident. Post-ceremony, the newlyweds and their guests moved to the Barn at The Farm at Old Edwards for cocktail hour.

Their reception, held under the Pavilion, was a sight to behold. An amalgamation of pastel purples, blues, yellows, greens, and peach tones beautifully complements their guests’ elegant black-tie optional (this is def one of my favorite dress codes). The couple’s first and last dances were pure magic. As everyone gathered outside for the sparkler exit, Victoria and Ryan shared a private last dance to Frankie Valli’s Let’s Hang On to What We’ve Got song, a moment that was both intimate and touching.

The night ended, but the celebration was far from over. As the couple departed under an archway of sparklers created by their guests, they carried memories that will last a lifetime. Stay tuned for the full gallery of Victoria and Ryan’s special day. For now, here’s a sneak peek of the magic that was their wedding at The Farm at Old Edwards